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We are all judgmental
Yes, even you. I certainly am, many times. I think it's human nature.
And yet, while it is in our nature to be judgmental I don't think it's always useful to us.
We look down on others, as if we are so much better … and that creates division between people. Although I have been teased for years by so many that I am short and that no one would ever look up to me, I at times have been guilty of looking down upon others. At times is was those that I thought lived lives that were so self defeating and that my own was so much better. Yes there was a rude awakening. I lost someone I loved and never had a chance to tell them that I was proud of them just the way they were. Fools game I called it. Once I looked at how much I hurt over her loss, and how wonderful a person she truly was, I then realized I judged her unfairly.
Although she lived a life that I felt was not healthy, it was her choice. I could not in any way change her way of living. The only thing I could change about her was the way I accepted her and judged her.
Think about it for a second. We see someone, and based on their looks or actions, we pass judgment on them. It is not good judgment either and usually without even knowing the person. That's it. That's usually the extent of our interaction with that person. We don't make an effort to get to know the person or understand them, or see whether our judgment was right or not.
And let's consider what happens when we pass judgment on people we do know. We see something they do, and get angry at it, or disappointed in the person, or think worse of them.
We judge without understanding, and that's the end of it. We don't try to find out more, and through communication begin to understand, and through understanding begin to build a bridge between two human beings. We just judge.
Can you build a bridge with every single person you meet? Probably not. That takes time and effort, two things we're usually short on anyways. But I've found that taking that extra time, even just once a day can make a huge difference. You need only believe in yourself, and you can be the better person you want to be. If you are being judged, perhaps you can send the judgmental person in your life this note.
Avoid passing judgment and instead build a bridge between two human beings.
If you're interested in that, let's take a look at one method I've been using.
Here's the information Now use it in your life the best way you are able to. Everyone on this earth is so different. Alter the method to suit you, but the basics are here to start you off in the right direction to clearing that nagging judgmental side of you.
Remember once you learn something, you cannot unlearn it, so as you read on, you need to know that you are now taking responsibility of the knowledge and making yourself capable of change.
I have been judged by many, as my life is not quite the norm. I am sure you can understand why people cast their judgments without even knowing who I am. I personally analyze myself based on what I feel, see, hear, and know from within. If I am doing good, helping, loving and sharing my gift, I am content to give myself a positive self judgment. Are you?
Let's begin the journey of knowledge, into letting judgment go.
Release Judgment. If you find yourself being judgmental, stop yourself. This takes a greater awareness than we usually have, so the first step (and an important one) is to observe your thoughts for a few days, trying to notice when you're being judgmental. This can be a difficult step. Remind yourself to observe. Pay attention to the way you see people and what you are thinking as you pass them by. Everyone of us can be so unaware of our own thoughts at times Our minds are so cluttered with junk and chaos, so take the moment and listen to your thoughts and how you are judging a person as they just pass you by. You will be amazed if you stop to listen as to how many times you place judgment on a person before even knowing them. Once you're more aware you can then stop yourself when you feel that you are being judgmental..
An affirmation free of judgment - Say this to yourself quietly
"I am no longer willing to be so negative. I am a loving, kind person and I refuse to cast judgment."
Then move to the next step.
Understand / be understanding. Instead of judging someone for what he or she has done or how he or she looks, try instead to understand the person. Put yourself in their shoes. Try to imagine their background. If possible, talk to them. Find out about who they were before you met them - their story. Everyone has one. If not, try to imagine the circumstances that might have led to the person acting or looking like they do.
Not every single person looks like the story they have to tell. Take Princess Diana for instance, did she look like a troubled anorexic woman who suffered pain within a marriage of intolerable ignorance? No we judged her as sexy, beautiful, peaceful and happy. Have we all stopped to listen to her story? Of course not. We just accepted that she was wonderful and moved on
What if she would have had a scar on her face? Would we have accepted her as wonderful then, or if she was heavy, or if she was black? Stop and listen to those you think you know so well. Perhaps you do not know them. Please do not put every type of person into the same judgmental pot. They do not all fit.
I love seeing people and listening to who they are without judgment. It makes me feel closer to that person and more understanding of myself. I have learned through others that how I see myself may not be as others see me, as not all are judgmental. This is a lesson that freed me to be more understanding of others regardless of their appearance.
Acceptance.
Once you begin to understand, or at least think you kind of understand, try to be accepting.
Acceptance means that regardless of the way a person looks, or speaks or acts, they are who they are and you try not to change them.
The world is what it is, and as much as you try, you can only change a little bit of it, and that little bit is the YOU.
It will continue to be as it is long after you're gone. Accept that, because otherwise, you're in for a world of frustration. If you feel there is injustice, ignorance, or prejudice in your world you cannot change this, just the way you feel about. So be accepting of all that is that you cannot change.
I am a loving, kind being and I am free to love myself and others without judgment
Loving/ be love Once you've accepted someone for who they are, try to love them. Even if you don't know them, even if you have hated them in the past, love them as they are, for who they are, as a brother, or love her as a sister, old or young, light skinned or dark, male or female, rich or poor.
What good will loving someone do?
Your love will likely only be limited, but it could have an affect on two people: yourself, and possibly on the person you've found love for. Loving others will serve to make yourself happier. Trust me on this one, and loving others can change the lives of others if you choose to express that love and take action on it. I can't guarantee what will happen, but it can be life-changing.
This information can help you become the self-loving and non-judgmental person you see in many of your friends. You may know someone that can use this. Please pass it on..
We are all capable of change. There is no reason why you and I cannot change the way we feel, think and learn. If you want to be a loving, authentic being, change the way you view others, the way you view yourself, and be accepting of the gifts others have, not only your own. Self acceptance will assist you in accepting others. Love yourself to be loved by others, and most of all never judge any one, including yourself. Become aware, but do not cast judgment as all judgment is a mirror of self refection.
Remember once you have learned something it is yours forever, so take charge of change and enforce that the past is over
"Seasoning" Greetings
We are all getting ready for the season ahead of us, the season that most of us dread - Flu and Cold Season.
It is time for soup. I want to share with you a series of recipes over the next few months that will help you through the flu and cold season.
When we were younger our moms always made a good old fashioned pot of chicken soup, and there was a good reason for it.
The antibodies in the chicken broth help us with building the immunities required to fight off the flu and cold virus, well some of them any way. I have included one of my favorite chicken soup recipes and one of my favorite immunity building soup recipes as well. Enjoy them and remember when our bodies are feeling weak and tired, feed your body well. Give your body fuel to run healthier..
Soup is a fool-proof body fuel.
Good Old fashioned Chicken Soup.
Stock
" 1 onion, quartered
" 2 celery ribs
" 2 carrots
" 4 garlic cloves
" 1 bay leaf
" 2 lbs skinless chicken pieces, skin and visible fat removed
" 10-12 cups cold water
Soup
" 10 cups chicken stock.
" 2 potatoes, quartered and sliced
" 2 carrots, sliced
" 1 stalk celery, sliced
" 1 small onion, chopped
" 2 garlic cloves, minced
" 1 1/2 teaspoons salt , or salt substitute.
" 1/2 teaspoon black pepper
" 2 cups chicken, that you've pulled from the bones
" 2 tablespoons chicken bouillon, liquid Bovril , or organic chicken flavoring.
" 1 1/2 cups frozen mixed vegetables
" 1 1/2 cups thin egg noodles
Directions
1 In a large Dutch oven or stock pot, add onion, celery, carrots, garlic and bay leaf. Place chicken on top, and add water. (If your pot will only hold 10 cups of water at first, the remaining water can be added later, as some of it will evaporate)
Cover and bring to a boil. Reduce heat to low, and simmer for 1-1/2 hours
2 Use a slotted spoon, remove chicken to a plate to cool. Strain the broth and discard the vegetables.
3 At this point, the broth may be cooled and frozen for later use, or you may continue on with the recipe. This is an excellent time to remove any remaining fat from the broth.
4 Remove the meat from the bones, cut and set aside
5 Return the broth to a clean pot. Bring to a boil and add the potatoes, carrots, celery, onion, garlic, salt and pepper. Cover and simmer for ½ hour
6 Add the chicken, bouillon, frozen vegetables, and noodles. Simmer for 20 minutes
Enjoy this soup, you will feel as warm inside as the summer breeze, o.k. maybe just darn good and happy…
Now here is my favorite kidney detoxifying soup
Sweet potato, Red pepper ,Squash soup
( Talk about simple, I like simple.
1 squash, Butternut is best for this recipe.)
1 large red pepper
2 large sweet potatoes
4 cups of water.
1 cup of Soya milk or fat free milk. I prefer Soya.
1. Peel and chop all vegetables small enough to fit into your blender, 2 inch chunks is good.
2. Place all vegetables in medium stock pot with water
3. Boil for 20 minutes until vegetables are soft.
4. Cool for 10 minutes uncovered.
5. Place in blender with water from stock pot, puree until smooth, add Soya milk. Blend one minute.
If you want it to be thinner add more Soya milk.
Add pepper and salt to taste, but simple is best here, you don't need it.
Heat and serve.
Enjoy I call this one candy.
Thank you again for taking the time to share this letter, next time I want to talk about over compensating.
And finally, a thank-you note to Sue Weaver my friend who makes this all possible and Tammy Gould for all the hard work, and dedication she has given me over the years, Thank you ladies for all that you do for me. I love you both.
Sharon
Yes, even you. I certainly am, many times. I think it's human nature.
And yet, while it is in our nature to be judgmental I don't think it's always useful to us.
We look down on others, as if we are so much better … and that creates division between people. Although I have been teased for years by so many that I am short and that no one would ever look up to me, I at times have been guilty of looking down upon others. At times is was those that I thought lived lives that were so self defeating and that my own was so much better. Yes there was a rude awakening. I lost someone I loved and never had a chance to tell them that I was proud of them just the way they were. Fools game I called it. Once I looked at how much I hurt over her loss, and how wonderful a person she truly was, I then realized I judged her unfairly.
Although she lived a life that I felt was not healthy, it was her choice. I could not in any way change her way of living. The only thing I could change about her was the way I accepted her and judged her.
Think about it for a second. We see someone, and based on their looks or actions, we pass judgment on them. It is not good judgment either and usually without even knowing the person. That's it. That's usually the extent of our interaction with that person. We don't make an effort to get to know the person or understand them, or see whether our judgment was right or not.
And let's consider what happens when we pass judgment on people we do know. We see something they do, and get angry at it, or disappointed in the person, or think worse of them.
We judge without understanding, and that's the end of it. We don't try to find out more, and through communication begin to understand, and through understanding begin to build a bridge between two human beings. We just judge.
Can you build a bridge with every single person you meet? Probably not. That takes time and effort, two things we're usually short on anyways. But I've found that taking that extra time, even just once a day can make a huge difference. You need only believe in yourself, and you can be the better person you want to be. If you are being judged, perhaps you can send the judgmental person in your life this note.
Avoid passing judgment and instead build a bridge between two human beings.
If you're interested in that, let's take a look at one method I've been using.
Here's the information Now use it in your life the best way you are able to. Everyone on this earth is so different. Alter the method to suit you, but the basics are here to start you off in the right direction to clearing that nagging judgmental side of you.
Remember once you learn something, you cannot unlearn it, so as you read on, you need to know that you are now taking responsibility of the knowledge and making yourself capable of change.
I have been judged by many, as my life is not quite the norm. I am sure you can understand why people cast their judgments without even knowing who I am. I personally analyze myself based on what I feel, see, hear, and know from within. If I am doing good, helping, loving and sharing my gift, I am content to give myself a positive self judgment. Are you?
Let's begin the journey of knowledge, into letting judgment go.
Release Judgment. If you find yourself being judgmental, stop yourself. This takes a greater awareness than we usually have, so the first step (and an important one) is to observe your thoughts for a few days, trying to notice when you're being judgmental. This can be a difficult step. Remind yourself to observe. Pay attention to the way you see people and what you are thinking as you pass them by. Everyone of us can be so unaware of our own thoughts at times Our minds are so cluttered with junk and chaos, so take the moment and listen to your thoughts and how you are judging a person as they just pass you by. You will be amazed if you stop to listen as to how many times you place judgment on a person before even knowing them. Once you're more aware you can then stop yourself when you feel that you are being judgmental..
An affirmation free of judgment - Say this to yourself quietly
"I am no longer willing to be so negative. I am a loving, kind person and I refuse to cast judgment."
Then move to the next step.
Understand / be understanding. Instead of judging someone for what he or she has done or how he or she looks, try instead to understand the person. Put yourself in their shoes. Try to imagine their background. If possible, talk to them. Find out about who they were before you met them - their story. Everyone has one. If not, try to imagine the circumstances that might have led to the person acting or looking like they do.
Not every single person looks like the story they have to tell. Take Princess Diana for instance, did she look like a troubled anorexic woman who suffered pain within a marriage of intolerable ignorance? No we judged her as sexy, beautiful, peaceful and happy. Have we all stopped to listen to her story? Of course not. We just accepted that she was wonderful and moved on
What if she would have had a scar on her face? Would we have accepted her as wonderful then, or if she was heavy, or if she was black? Stop and listen to those you think you know so well. Perhaps you do not know them. Please do not put every type of person into the same judgmental pot. They do not all fit.
I love seeing people and listening to who they are without judgment. It makes me feel closer to that person and more understanding of myself. I have learned through others that how I see myself may not be as others see me, as not all are judgmental. This is a lesson that freed me to be more understanding of others regardless of their appearance.
Acceptance.
Once you begin to understand, or at least think you kind of understand, try to be accepting.
Acceptance means that regardless of the way a person looks, or speaks or acts, they are who they are and you try not to change them.
The world is what it is, and as much as you try, you can only change a little bit of it, and that little bit is the YOU.
It will continue to be as it is long after you're gone. Accept that, because otherwise, you're in for a world of frustration. If you feel there is injustice, ignorance, or prejudice in your world you cannot change this, just the way you feel about. So be accepting of all that is that you cannot change.
I am a loving, kind being and I am free to love myself and others without judgment
Loving/ be love Once you've accepted someone for who they are, try to love them. Even if you don't know them, even if you have hated them in the past, love them as they are, for who they are, as a brother, or love her as a sister, old or young, light skinned or dark, male or female, rich or poor.
What good will loving someone do?
Your love will likely only be limited, but it could have an affect on two people: yourself, and possibly on the person you've found love for. Loving others will serve to make yourself happier. Trust me on this one, and loving others can change the lives of others if you choose to express that love and take action on it. I can't guarantee what will happen, but it can be life-changing.
This information can help you become the self-loving and non-judgmental person you see in many of your friends. You may know someone that can use this. Please pass it on..
We are all capable of change. There is no reason why you and I cannot change the way we feel, think and learn. If you want to be a loving, authentic being, change the way you view others, the way you view yourself, and be accepting of the gifts others have, not only your own. Self acceptance will assist you in accepting others. Love yourself to be loved by others, and most of all never judge any one, including yourself. Become aware, but do not cast judgment as all judgment is a mirror of self refection.
Remember once you have learned something it is yours forever, so take charge of change and enforce that the past is over
"Seasoning" Greetings
We are all getting ready for the season ahead of us, the season that most of us dread - Flu and Cold Season.
It is time for soup. I want to share with you a series of recipes over the next few months that will help you through the flu and cold season.
When we were younger our moms always made a good old fashioned pot of chicken soup, and there was a good reason for it.
The antibodies in the chicken broth help us with building the immunities required to fight off the flu and cold virus, well some of them any way. I have included one of my favorite chicken soup recipes and one of my favorite immunity building soup recipes as well. Enjoy them and remember when our bodies are feeling weak and tired, feed your body well. Give your body fuel to run healthier..
Soup is a fool-proof body fuel.
Good Old fashioned Chicken Soup.
Stock
" 1 onion, quartered
" 2 celery ribs
" 2 carrots
" 4 garlic cloves
" 1 bay leaf
" 2 lbs skinless chicken pieces, skin and visible fat removed
" 10-12 cups cold water
Soup
" 10 cups chicken stock.
" 2 potatoes, quartered and sliced
" 2 carrots, sliced
" 1 stalk celery, sliced
" 1 small onion, chopped
" 2 garlic cloves, minced
" 1 1/2 teaspoons salt , or salt substitute.
" 1/2 teaspoon black pepper
" 2 cups chicken, that you've pulled from the bones
" 2 tablespoons chicken bouillon, liquid Bovril , or organic chicken flavoring.
" 1 1/2 cups frozen mixed vegetables
" 1 1/2 cups thin egg noodles
Directions
1 In a large Dutch oven or stock pot, add onion, celery, carrots, garlic and bay leaf. Place chicken on top, and add water. (If your pot will only hold 10 cups of water at first, the remaining water can be added later, as some of it will evaporate)
Cover and bring to a boil. Reduce heat to low, and simmer for 1-1/2 hours
2 Use a slotted spoon, remove chicken to a plate to cool. Strain the broth and discard the vegetables.
3 At this point, the broth may be cooled and frozen for later use, or you may continue on with the recipe. This is an excellent time to remove any remaining fat from the broth.
4 Remove the meat from the bones, cut and set aside
5 Return the broth to a clean pot. Bring to a boil and add the potatoes, carrots, celery, onion, garlic, salt and pepper. Cover and simmer for ½ hour
6 Add the chicken, bouillon, frozen vegetables, and noodles. Simmer for 20 minutes
Enjoy this soup, you will feel as warm inside as the summer breeze, o.k. maybe just darn good and happy…
Now here is my favorite kidney detoxifying soup
Sweet potato, Red pepper ,Squash soup
( Talk about simple, I like simple.
1 squash, Butternut is best for this recipe.)
1 large red pepper
2 large sweet potatoes
4 cups of water.
1 cup of Soya milk or fat free milk. I prefer Soya.
1. Peel and chop all vegetables small enough to fit into your blender, 2 inch chunks is good.
2. Place all vegetables in medium stock pot with water
3. Boil for 20 minutes until vegetables are soft.
4. Cool for 10 minutes uncovered.
5. Place in blender with water from stock pot, puree until smooth, add Soya milk. Blend one minute.
If you want it to be thinner add more Soya milk.
Add pepper and salt to taste, but simple is best here, you don't need it.
Heat and serve.
Enjoy I call this one candy.
Thank you again for taking the time to share this letter, next time I want to talk about over compensating.
And finally, a thank-you note to Sue Weaver my friend who makes this all possible and Tammy Gould for all the hard work, and dedication she has given me over the years, Thank you ladies for all that you do for me. I love you both.
Sharon